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Manifest Destiny–Literally

How many of you noticed how things seem to fall into place in your life when you’re feeling good about yourself?  Or conversely, how everything seems to fall apart when you aren’t feeling good about yourself or where your life is at right now?  It always seems like a crazy coincidence, but there’s something about coincidences a lot of people don’t realize.

They don’t actually exist.

Well, not the way we normally think about them.

You welcome into your world what you think the most about, and “coincidences” are simply validations that your inner world and outer world are interacting.  We simply can’t notice all the subconscious interactions and connections we make each day and how they all weave together to influence our lives at a larger level.  Thus, if you hold negativity you’ll encounter negative outcomes, circumstances and coincidences and the same is true for holding positivity.

For example, if you think you’re better than everyone else you will spend all your time finding people’s flaws and attracting other people who think the same way, which you will interpret as flawed thinking and take it as evidence you are better than everyone.  On the other hand, if you are self-content you won’t see a need to judge or compare yourself with others which will help you see not only the good in you, but the good in the people around you who are often your biggest supporters.  We see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear.

Think about it.

Given we share one outer world and all have our own inner worlds, the events that befall in life are the result of everything that everyone is thinking.  If you think of matter as energy and thoughts/emotions as energy and believe in conservation of energy, it could be said that a rise in global disasters, wars, disease and famine can be the result of a global-scale trend toward negative or destructive thinking.  And if you can see things that way you can see what kind of influence over the physical world our intangible thoughts have, making them akin to the influence of a God.  Which helps explain why religions emphasize the growth of self and promote self love because in having these traits one brings only positive things into their lives and the lives of others, using their “Godly” mental influence over fate and the world responsibly and compassionately.

But you don’t even have to take it that far for it to make sense.  Thoughts dictate behaviors, behaviors cause reacting and reoccurring behaviors–ebb and flow, to and fro, cause and effect, Taoism.  It all begins in our minds, and by it, I mean the flow and progression of life. The paths our lives lead are hugely influenced by our actions, habits, beliefs and attitudes–and each of those things begin as thoughts.  Simple, everyday thoughts we think about, but don’t really think about as our mental habits turn into mindsets.  Mindsets that affect perspective, motivation, self-esteem and happiness levels.

So mind your thoughts and keep them positive for best results.  We are what we repeatedly do, as Aristotle says, and this extends to what we think about.  “I think, therefore I am,” or to relate with this article, “I think, therefore I exist and I exist as my thoughts are.”  Our minds are POWERFUL BEYOND MEASURE and can act as cages or as wings.  We can be our own worst enemies or our greatest allies depending on the thoughts we keep with us in the foxhole.

Seek to empower and inspire yourself everyday and you’ll be unstoppable.  Be your greatest supporter and provide encouragement along with your constructive criticism and you’ll be well on your way to becoming the best YOU as humanly possible.

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7 Tactics Designed To Make You Spend…And How To Beat Them

You go to the store for one box of cereal but leave with three boxes of cereal, a gallon of milk, a bag of oranges, a carton of yogurt cups, a box of donuts, a ready-to-bake blueberry pie, an entertainment magazine and a pack of gum.  What the hell happened?!

Marketers and sales staff are taught how to influence consumers into making purchases by using psychology to manipulate our buying behaviors.  But you can (and should) fight back. Below are seven tactics meant to encourage you to part with your money–and simple defenses for resisting their influence or even striking a better deal.

1.    The “FUGI” factor

FUGI stands for “Fear of loss, Urgency, Greed and Indifference,” the first three being emotions to target in consumers and the last one being a mindset salespeople should adopt.  The idea is to tell consumers they have a limited amount of time to make a purchase before the sale is discontinued.  This taps into our Fear of missing out on something (or our fear of regret) and our Greed, which makes the situation more Urgent:  consumers know they have limited time to make a decision before missing out on the deal.  At the same time salespeople act Indifferent to the sale, which puts all the pressure onto the consumer–if the salesperson doesn’t care about making the sale, it’s up to the consumer to care about snagging the deal.  This plays off the Principle of Scarcity noted by Robert Cialdini in his book, “Influence:  Science and Practice.”

Call To Action Urgency Factor In Advertising

The best way to avoid that pressure is to ask yourself if you really need the product or service right now.  Chances are a similar sale will come around again weeks or months down the line–and chances are equally well the deal isn’t all that good.  You could try to negotiate from here, but typically when FUGI is employed the sale price is non-negotiable:  the salesperson isn’t trying to make a bunch of sales, just the ones netted by FUGI.  This may not be the case in department stores or at retailers but is generally the case with door-to-door sales and event marketing.  It never hurts to try haggling, though.

2.  Door-In-The-Face Technique

This is when a large request is made knowing it will be turned down and then a smaller request is made knowing the person is more likely to agree to it.  For instance, a box of cereal in a grocery store may be priced at $5 and then “marked down” to $3.50, which was likely the original sales price anyways.  Or a saleswoman may ask $45,000 for a new car then after “talking to her boss” (stopping in her office for coffee while you stew in anticipation, imagine yourself driving the car and start over-thinking) she drops the price to $37,500, which was probably what she was hoping to get all along.  We see the smaller request and assume we’re getting a deal, which compels us to make the purchase.  We’re also willing to agree to the new terms and may feel like we owe the person now that they’ve made a “compromise.”  This is similar to Cialdini’s Principle of Reciprocity, which suggests we feel obligated to return favors as a social rule that developed alongside civilization–which can explain why free samples and gifts with purchase are so effective at turning sales.

It may sound cold, but one of the best defenses against this is realizing the person doesn’t really care about you, the person cares about your wallet.  Try to realize the free gift or the compromise was a ploy meant to bait you into making a purchase.  It can be tough because we naturally want to return favors and feel guilty for not doing so, but that’s exactly how they want you to feel.  If they’re going to play emotional hardball, it’s absolutely okay for you to do the same. Mention how you came out of your way and got stuck in traffic to get to the sale and ask if you can get a discount for your troubles–perhaps you’re even putting a deal with another salesperson at another lot on hold to check out this sale.  Just do something that shows you did the salesperson a favor in some way and see if they can do you a favor in return (you’re helping them make commission, after all).  It may not work all the time but you’ll be surprised how often it does, especially if you employ FUGI as a counter.  Door-in-the-face techniques can be a fairly good indication that sale price is negotiable since the price fluctuates but they don’t always mean negotiation is on the table.

3.  Store Layout

The very layout of a store can cause you to make more purchases than you intended.  Most stores are set up so you have to walk by tons of products in order to get to the one you came for, which is why common purchases and best sellers are usually found at the back of the store and in the center of aisles.  At the same time, store layouts are designed to keep you inside the store as long as possible.  Popular and pricey products are typically at eye level while generic and discounted items are closer to the ground and thus harder to see.  Certain colors have subtle psychological effects, such as red being mentally stimulating and causing us to make more impulse decisions or yellow causing us to become happy (if you can think of a fast food chain that uses red and yellow in its logo, you can also see how influential branding is).  Of course, color psychology is dependent on individual interpretations of colors and their meanings, which are typically learned through culture and personal experience…but the general physiological responses to “warm” and “cool” colors (stimulating and relaxing, respectively) and the learned associations such as gold for wealth and luxury, green for the environment or red+white+blue=’Murica are easily exploitable.

Brand Logo Color Psychology Advertising Media

The first 15 feet inside a store is known as the “decompression zone,” where customers mentally prepare for shopping and don’t notice merchandise–that’s also where most of the signs for sales are placed to slow us down and to prime us for “great savings” ahead.  Items are priced at $5.99 instead of $6 for example, because we read left to right and see the 5 first without giving much consideration to the .99 tacked on the end.  This causes us to group $5.99 in the $5 range instead of the $6 range when buying on impulse.  Background music makes you relax and lower your guard, items with ample space between them appear more valuable, aisles lead straight to featured product displays, staple items such as socks are surrounded by more expensive products like branded shirts and impulse purchases can always be found by the cash registers. This, this and this are three good articles about the influence of store layout–the last is a UK link so mind the slang, mate.

Every time you step into a store you are stepping into a retail “trap” meant to guide you into making the most expensive purchase possible.  Store designers and salespeople will even try to get you high.  Beating the trap is simply a matter of awareness.  Pay attention to your surroundings to see through the smoke and mirrors of merchandising, stick to a shopping list, compare prices, round items up to the next dollar when budgeting, look all over the shelves instead of just at eye-level and above all, stay the course without getting distracted by all the signs and displays.

4. Low-Balling

Hey, I have this spaceship in my backyard that’s in excellent condition and can actually fly.  You seem like the type who  appreciates extraterrestrial transportation, so I’m willing to sell it to you for cheap.  This baby used to tour the galaxies alongside the ship that went down in Roswell–I know because the aliens told me.  I’ll let it go for $1,000, what do you say?

If you don’t think I’m crazy for admitting talking to aliens, then you probably think I’m crazy for selling a functioning spaceship for $1,000.  So what’s the catch?  Well, the catch is I’m selling the ship for $1,000.  But the scheme is the damn thing won’t fly without the engine, which I’ll install for another $8,000 (price of the engine included–reciprocity).  You’ve already committed to the $1,000 in your mind so the $8,000 doesn’t seem so bad–I mean, a spaceship does need an engine and the price of the engine is factored in…

This, in essence, is low-balling.  The aim is to get the customer to mentally commit to a low price then switch up the deal and hit the customer with the higher price, which was the original price intended.  As long as the high price can be justified by the perceived value of the sale, this technique can be quite effective.  It’s similar to the bait-and-switch tactic as well as the Principle of Commitment (another “Weapon of Influence” noted by Cialdini).  Beating this strategy is simple:  ignore the first number.  Then remember the first number.  Then see if you can strike a deal somewhere between the first and second numbers.  Just as you have committed to the sale, so has the seller of the spaceship.  This means you can have equal influence over the negotiation since both parties are committed to seeing the sale happen.  You could even bring in the reciprocity factor by agreeing to buy the spaceship for $1,000 first then seeing if you can strike a deal on the engine installation.  Don’t forget to mention you already did the salesman a favor by believing his story and NOT running back to your car…

 5.  Testimonials

Humans are social creatures and sometimes to a fault.  We see other people buying a product or using a service so we assume the product or service is worth purchasing.  All those other people are doing it and they can’t all be wrong, so why not do it too?

Event marketers gather crowds because it validates the product or service and draws in more people.  Salespeople mention their sales from earlier to show you people are buying from them and some bartenders add their own money to tip jars to make it look like everyone is tipping.  This is essentially the bandwagon effect and Cialdini’s Principle of Social Proof at work.

Celebrity Vote Or Die Campaign Citizen Change

Some testimonials come from celebrities or those in positions of authority such as doctors, professors, scientists, mechanics, subject matter experts and  professionals.  Testimonials from these kinds of people are extremely powerful because people tend to trust and believe them.  This is the power of ethos, known in rhetoric as manipulation using one’s character, reputation, expertise and identity.  Many of us like to identify with and relate to celebrities so we will buy what they buy and do what they do (we also do this because we like them, another “Weapon of Influence” by, you guessed it, Cialdini).  The celebrity chosen for the testimonial depends on the brand, the target audience and the message communicated:  Michael Jordan represented Nike and Hanes because those brands target young, athletic males while Kelly Clarkson represented Proactiv because she just won American Idol and the company targets young women who may feel like their acne is holding them back.  In both cases, the brands are using the celebrities identities to leverage sales and motivate the behaviors of the target audience.

Additionally, when we see someone in a white lab coat giving medical advice, we tend to take their words as truth because they’re obviously real doctors who know what they’re talking about and deeply care about our well-being .  Despite the fact many of them are paid actors, we see the white lab coats and transcribe those symbols of profession to the spokespeople giving testimonials and rarely think twice about them.  This is due to the Principle of Authority noted by Cialdini and the fact we are conditioned from a young age to take authority as truth and never question it.

Beating this is very, very simple:  be yourself.  Don’t jump off bridges just because other people are doing it.  What’s good for the spider is bad for the fly.  Realize that no matter how much you want to identify with celebrities, chances are you will never meet them and they will never know you exist–you know what is best for you better than any celebrity would. And remember that just because someone wearing a white lab coat says he’s a doctor, doesn’t mean he is.  And even if he is a doctor that doesn’t mean he’s right–he’s still getting paid to say what he’s saying and the only reason they’re paying him is because they know you will trust his judgment.  Case in point, this actual advertisement for Camel cigarettes that was part of an R.J. Reynolds campaign back in the 1940s:

Cigarette Ad Doctors Smoke Camel
Camel advertisement from R.J. Reynolds campaign during the 1940s. Source: Stanford School of Medicine. URL: http://tobacco.stanford.edu/tobacco_main/images.php?token2=fm_st001.php&token1=fm_img0002.php&theme_file=fm_mt001.php&theme_name=Doctors%20Smoking&subtheme_name=More%20Doctors%20Smoke%20Camels

 

6. Selling Benefits

The current advertising trend is to sell the “benefits” of a product rather than its features.  For example, an ad for a dishwasher may say “what you’re really buying is more time to eat with your family,” which makes you feel guilty for washing dishes instead of eating, makes you feel like you’re missing out on quality time and makes you believe this dishwasher is the answer to a closer, more loving family.

Please.

Check those claims with logic and reason, otherwise they will get the best of you.  That’s what they’re designed to do, after all.  Economist Ted Levitt said it best:  “People don’t buy quarter-inch drill bits, they buy quarter-inch holes.”  And that’s the philosophy of benefits selling:  it’s not about the product, it’s about what the product does for you.  There is a certain appeal to promoting benefits–maybe it’s the innocent approach or the fact it sounds incredibly genuine, making it hard to resist.  But do try.  Think rationally about the claim and consider how it makes you feel (for example, “you aren’t buying a car, you’re buying a better sex life”), then look at how the product stands in your mind without the claim supporting it.  If the product or service still appears useful or beneficial, go for it.  If not, leave it.  There is usually more than one solution to any problem so don’t let marketers and salespeople trick you into thinking their product or service is the one-size-fits-all magic bullet that’s going to make your life a thousand times easier and your problems go away–because it probably won’t.

7.  Add-ons, Cross-selling and Gifts With Purchase

One sale isn’t enough–retailers and salespeople want you to keep adding to your purchase until your cart is full and bloated like an overfed goldfish.  Just bought a TV?  Take a look at this nifty universal remote.  Just bought car insurance?  You’ll probably need a policy on your house as well.  Sometimes they’ll offer a free gift with purchase to either get you to buy something else or to remember them as the considerate retailer who “hooked you up” with something special.  In these cases the salesperson is utilizing both reciprocity and commitment by doing you a favor with a  free gift and getting you to commit to your first purchase before showing you a related item they hope you’ll also purchase.  The name of the game is to keep throwing products or services at you until you finally say “no more” but by then you’re still buying at least one thing–if not two.  And the internet is no better.  Online retailers use “product recommendations” to ramp up your purchases and will even offer free shipping to encourage you to buy in bulk.

To counter, tell yourself you only need the one thing you came for.  When the add-on or cross sale appears, examine how much more they’re asking you to spend and if the second item is really necessary.  If the add-on seems like it’s worth the extra money, then go for it.  But if not, tell them “no thanks” and proceed to checkout.  You can always come back to get the second product later if you weren’t able to haggle a better price for it the first time around.  But you’ll probably be just as happy without it.

Conclusion

There are a myriad of ways we are manipulated into making the most expensive purchases possible but they all follow the same principles. Keep an eye out for “Weapons of Influence” such as reciprocity, commitment, liking, social proof, authority and scarcity.  Also be aware of any time you feel your emotions flare during a sale or advertisement–chances are a tactic was being used to trigger your emotions, which reduces rational thought and causes us to become invested in the product or service before even paying for it.  In rhetoric, this is known as a pathos appeal–A.K.A. eliciting emotion and tugging on heartstrings.  Ultimately, the best defense against these tactics is knowing they exist and acting accordingly.  And now that you know they do exist, the only real question I have left is:

“Would you like fries with that?”

Why? Because I Said So

The English language is packed with words but only a select handful of them are considered “power words,” or words that have more influence over people than others.  One of the simplest yet most effective of these power words (according to the highly influential and aptly named book “Influence,” by Robert Cialdini) is the word “because.”

Say you have  a business report that needs to be copied ASAP but there’s a line in front of the copy machine.  If you were to go up to your co-workers and ask, “May I use the copy machine first?  I have an important business report that needs to be copied,” your co-workers may resist your polite query or just shrug you off without a second thought.  But if you were to tweak the phrase by adding the word “because,” you can greatly increase your odds of convincing your co-workers letting you cut in line.  Such as by asking, “I have a business report that needs to be copied, can I go first because I’m in a rush?”

You may not be convinced this works, and that’s okay–I felt the same way when I read this example in Cialdini’s book.  But there is a study and statistics that back the claim which can also be found in “Influence.”

When the participant in this scenario asked, “Excuse me, I have five pages, may I use the Xerox machine?” 60 percent of people let the participant cut in line.  However, when the query was changed to “I have five pages.  May I use the Xerox machine because I’m in a rush?” 94 percent of people let the participant cut.  The word “because” influenced them to give into the participant’s request, even though the reason (being in a rush) isn’t that strong of a reason–everyone is in a rush at an office.

Further, when the question was changed to “Excuse me, I have five pages.  May I use the Xerox machine because I have to make copies?” 93 percent of people let the participant cut in line–even if the reason wasn’t much of a reason at all.  Everyone uses the Xerox machine to make copies, making this a reason that should go without saying or a “non-reason,” to put it another way.

Cialdini says we are much more likely to get someone to do us favors simply by providing them with a reason–regardless of how good the reason is.  People just like knowing there is a method behind the madness and they aren’t being asked to do something just for the sake of doing it.  Of course, this may not work ALL THE TIME but it can tip the scales in your favor when asking someone to do something for you or to let you do something that may slightly inconvenience them.

You can read more about the power of “because” in this article by the Huffington Post, which includes four other power words that hold influence over people.  Use this knowledge to see how advertisements, salespeople, politicians and other people try to sway you into buying products or doing things for them so you can become more aware of their influence.  And it should go without saying that if you intend on using these power words for yourself, do so responsibly and ethically.

The Power of Words and Definitions

Words are powerful.  They shape how we understand concepts and the world around us, they determine how well we understand each other, and they can influence our beliefs, decisions, actions, and ethics.  Language is what allows us to communicate our thoughts and ideas with each other in a sophisticated fashion, so it is no surprise words have such an impact on us and our minds.  But you may be surprised to learn the overlooked details and nuances in language have the greatest influence on us:  definitions, connotations, and interpretations, to name a few.

Let’s do a quick experiment before getting into the nitty-gritty.  Take a look at the following sets of phrases.  The phrases in each set refer to the same thing but the words used have slightly different connotations.  As you read each set reflect on what each phrase makes you think about and how it makes you feel about the thing in question:

Mobile phone and Cell phone

Bathing suit and Swimsuit

Interrogation room and Interview room

Lower-class families and Low-income families (also Middle-class families and Working-class families)

Drugs, Pharmaceuticals, and Medicines

Tennis shoes and Sneakers

Water and Dihydrogen Oxide

Knife (as a weapon) and Knife (as a tool)

Cottage cheese and Curdled milk

As you can see, your thoughts about each item and concept changed depending on the words used to describe and define them.  This is probably nothing new to you given the semantic strides in political correctness over the years.  However, there is real power in the way we phrase and define things that can have a direct, psychological impact on us and our lives.  And more often than not, that power slips right under our noses undetected and influences us on multiple levels to varying degrees.

Define Definition Word Meaning Dictionary

 

A good example of this is the phrase “cheat day” when referring to the one day a week people allow themselves to stray from their diets.  Calling it a “cheat day” may make dieters feel guilty about eating, as if they committed some nutritional crime and should be punished with additional dieting and exercise to make up for it.  On a practical level, calling it a “cheat day” reinforces the diet by making people believe they are cheating themselves out of a healthy lifestyle.  However, it can also make their diets seem strict and unyielding which can cause people to stop dieting in favor of a more lenient lifestyle.  By changing the words and calling it a “reward day,” dieters may instead feel like they are rewarding themselves for their good behavior and see their diets in a more positive light.  This is operational conditioning at its finest:  when people are rewarded for something, they’re likely to repeat the behavior that led to the reward.  By calling it a “reward day,” dieters will probably feel better about themselves and their diets because they feel like they’re being rewarded for dieting rather than cheating their diets.

Another example is the difference between the phrases, “neutralizing a target” and “killing a person.”  They can be taken to mean the same thing, however the way they are phrased leaves different impressions on those given the order.  Soldiers and tactical police officers may feel guilty about shooting someone when ordered to “kill that person” and may not even agree with the order.  But if they were told to “neutralize the target” they may feel a little better about what they were ordered to do because it’s no longer a person they’re shooting, it’s a target.  And they aren’t killing the target, they’re neutralizing it.    The subject becomes dehumanized and instead of sounding like murder, “neutralizing a target” sounds a bit more humane — as if the soldier or officer is simply flipping a switch or eliminating some inanimate threat.  There is no blood on anyone’s hands because the target was targeted for a reason, and it wasn’t “killed” but “neutralized.”

Because definitions, words, and ways of phrasing are so powerful, they play a very important role in the social sphere.  Contrasting movements and organizations use definitions to structure their arguments and align their beliefs against their opposition.  Pro-life supporters, for example, define the “beginning of life” as conception while pro-choice supporters define the “beginning of life” as birth.  This is done as a rhetorical appeal to people’s emotions and their reasoning to get them to fall in line with one side of the debate over the other.  Moreover, pro-life supporters define fetuses and embryos as human beings (which makes abortion murder), while pro-choice supporters do not define fetuses or embryos as human beings, but as human.  The difference?  Pro-choice supporters define fetuses and embryos as being biologically human, but not as self-sufficient human beings with protected rights, which makes all the difference in the world when regarding abortion (it isn’t murder, it’s more like removing a humanoid tumor or parasite).  An interesting article about the difference between NASA’s definition of “life” and the pro-life definition of “life” can be found here, and an equally interesting article about the language used by pro-life supporters and pro-choice supporters can be found here.  To prevent myself from showing bias, the first link is to a pro-life website and the second link is to a pro-choice website.

Also interesting is how these supporters label themselves.  They aren’t pro-abortion and anti-abortion, they are pro-life and pro-choice:  both words quickly summarize their values — life and choice, respectively — and also contain the positive prefixes “pro.”  This second observation is important because as any communications scholar would tell you, positive words and phrases are more influential than negative words and phrases, so people will respond better to organizations that are “pro” something rather than “anti” something.

In the legal arena, how lawyers define concepts and objects can be the difference between winning and losing a case.  For instance, during the George Zimmerman trial the defense claimed Zimmerman was using self-defense because he believed his life was in danger.  The prosecution claimed Zimmerman was not using self-defense because he was the aggressor and instead Trayvon Martin was the one defending himself.  On one hand (the defense’s), self-defense is defined as protecting oneself from the threat of danger by an aggressor and on the other hand (the prosecution’s) self-defense is defined as protecting oneself from the threat of danger by an aggressor.  Identical definitions.  The difference is the defense labeled or “defined” Martin as the aggressor while the prosecution labeled Zimmerman as the aggressor based on the actions and motivations of both men.  They took the same legal concepts of “self-defense” and “aggressor” but offered different interpretations of those concepts in order to sway the judge, the jury, and the public.  The power of definitions hard at work.

Bathroom Wall Graffiti

 

Slogans and taglines are also good examples of the power of words.  For instance, Coca-Cola’s tagline “Open Happiness” versus Pepsi’s new tagline “Live for Now.”  Neither of these sayings have ANYTHING to do with the products but have EVERYTHING to do with their brands.  Coke is offering happiness while Pepsi encourages you to live in the moment.  Your soft-drink preference, believe it or not, has less to do with how they taste and more to do with the feelings you associate with the brand and the words it uses (with some exceptions).  Another example is McDonald’s tagline “I’m lovin’ it” versus Burger King’s tagline “Have it your way.”  The first ensures you’ll love their burgers and the second ensures your burgers will be the way you want them.  Your fast-food preference may very well come down to which tagline you value more (though there are always other factors).  Yet another example, President Barrack Obama’s most recent campaign tagline “Forward” versus Mitt Romney’s campaign tagline “Keep America American.”  The former suggests progression, movement, and continuance while the latter suggests patriotism, exclusivity, and vanishing American ideals.  Both taglines appealed to the candidate’s respective political bases and embody the main message each candidate wanted to get across to voters.

So here’s the takeaway from all of this.  Words, definitions, and ways of phrasing things have enormous influential power that can shape everything from our food choices to our beliefs on controversial topics such as abortion.  Take the theologies of Christianity, Judaism, and Islam.  They are essentially the same religion with the same stories and morals and Messiahs.  The difference mainly lies in how they distinguish prophets from deities, which arises from how they define prophets and deities.  By giving more consideration to the meanings and definitions people grant to words and concepts you will not only be more aware of how they influence you, but you will also be able to resist their influence and use it to your advantage.  Most importantly, you will be able to infer the motivations behind particular phrases such as “neutralizing a target” and “interview room” as opposed to “interrogation room,” which can help you  determine the intentions of others and their understanding of certain concepts and constructs.

I’ll leave you with some empowering alternatives to common, everyday words and phrases you can use to develop positive mindsets:

Instead of failure try work in progress.

Instead of obstacle or problem try challenge.

Instead of short-coming or fault try opportunity for improvement.

Instead of waste of time try progressive hiatus.

Instead of mistake try learning experience.

Instead of off-track try detour.

Instead of regret try lesson learned.

What do you think about the power of words and definitions?  Do you know of any other influential phrases or interesting word pairings?  Share your thoughts below!