“There are no extra pieces in the universe. Everyone is here because he or she has a place to fill, and every piece must fit itself into the big jigsaw puzzle.”
Whether or not you’ve thought much about it, you are a supremely unique individual with your own blend of talents and traits (hereon referred to as “style”) to share with the world. No one else will ever have your same personality, your same outlook on life or your same path…let alone all three. Though we are all one in a sense and have a lot more in common than we like to admit, our individual styles are what make us one-of-a-kind expressions of life and soul. Our individual styles make us unforgettable and irreplaceable.
Take a moment to think about what your natural talents and traits are. Perhaps you are funny, athletic, intelligent, sociable, musically inclined, supportive, strong, artistic, techno-savvy, optimistic, hard-working or helpful. Maybe you can sing real well, cook for a king or fix nearly anything. Maybe you’re a patient and thoughtful listener or maybe you know all there is to know about accounting. Just think about all the big and little things that make you who you are but especially any natural talents you have and your personality traits that you think make you different from others.
Now, think about how you can use those talents and traits of yours to positively impact those around you in a small way. Each one of us has a story that weaves and intertwines with the stories of countless others, so if each of us were to use our talents and traits to benefit those we come into contact with on a daily basis then over time we will benefit everyone in the world by extension.
It’s what I call “planting your seed of positivity” and the cool thing about it is you don’t have to do much: simply affect someone positively and watch as that person does the same to spread your seed on down the line. It’s like a phone tree except more reliable. We all know something as small as holding a door open, letting someone merge into your lane, helping a friend move or smiling at a stranger can make a huge difference in someone’s life. Everyone has their own struggles and we typically don’t know what others are going through at any particular moment or during the course of a lifetime. A simple friendly gesture could be an improvement to anyone’s day but we can take this practice a step further. Consider another quote:
“Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.”
–Bill Nye (The Science Guy)
Think of what would happen if everyone taught someone a single thing that person didn’t know–in no time at all the entire world would become that much more knowledgeable. For instance, I love meeting people who have a unique taste in music because I’m shamefully dependent on the radio and I invariably end up with a list of interesting artists to check out. This usually leads to me finding new music I really dig and connect with, which then leads to me sharing that music with other people I know. Even if I never see those musical mentors again I at least have two new things to carry with me for the rest of my life: a wider music base and a sense of these peoples’ individual styles. The first will enrich my playlist with new things to be exposed to while the second will help me further define myself by showing me how I am different from others and how I am similar (in other words, it reveals more of my unique style to me).
Of course, I also learn a lot from other people by looking at their personalities and attitudes, listening to their backgrounds, talking about their goals and motivations, observing how they interact with the world and discussing their philosophies on things like life, love, society and their interests. But the point here is to share what makes you unique with others so they may carry it with them and spread your seed of positivity while learning how to spread their own seeds.
Helping others find their unique styles is important because it promotes self-actualization, esteem, individuality and personal development. Not to mention we are all geniuses in at least one thing, so helping people find their inner geniuses through genuine self-expression can lead to a more enlightened and awakened world…akin to a Renaissance. Teach a good friend your special blueberry muffin recipe (but maybe not your secret blueberry muffin recipe). Take someone to your favorite spot and compare music playlists. Show others your intuitive understanding of the world and inspire them to make a difference. Help somebody learn how to do an oil change. Or simply lift peoples’ spirits with your random jokes and warm personality. Just try to rub off in a good way and with good intentions–those are like the sun, water and soil for your seed. Over time you’ll see your seed grow into a sapling among thousands of other saplings. And over some more time, all those saplings will grow into a forest where each plant is helping the plant next to it grow and develop into a strong tree.
Imagine what we could accomplish as a species and as a civilization if we all helped each other grow into strong trees rather than competed for the light and cut each other down to stumps. Let’s leave the deforestation of each others’ characters, identities and happiness in the past where it belongs–right next to actual deforestation.